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Friday, August 26, 2011
Everyday negative words escape from our lips. Amongst the negativity includes putting ourselves down when we're alone and even when we're around other people. We look in the mirror and we make harsh judgments and begin making a list about the things we can't stand about ourselves. Some of us are uncomfortable with our weight, some of us wish we had a different head of hair, and many of us compare ourselves to other women which results in feelings of jealousy, lack of self-esteem, rude behavior and hurt feelings.
God made us all different and unique and that's beautiful! Don't let yourself be consumed by what the world's idea of beautiful is. Many of those magazine photos you see have been altered anyways! We should be proud of our uniquenesses and embrace who we are because there isn't another person like us!
I was born with a gap in-between my two front teeth. My mom and my sister also have it. Growing up, it would occasionally bother me but I later saw it as one of the things that made me unique. It's especially fun that only the females in my family have it. When I met with Stephanie from The Loudmouth Lifestyle she told me she loved my gap! I was so touched by the compliment mostly because only my family has ever really said positive things about it. This reminded me of how important it is to compliment other people whether it be about something that makes them unique or something they're wearing. These positive words give everyone a boost of self-esteem!
I'm going to be honest and tell you that NO ONE likes to hear you put yourself down. Why? Because those words are hurtful to the people around you who love you and after a while it can really become annoying. NO ONE likes when you compare yourself to them. Why? Because it makes that person feel awkward and they will probably begin to entertain thoughts in their own heads about their bodies. Why would you want to be responsible for that?
I know people who talk negatively about themselves and it saddens me. I have experienced people comparing theirselves to me too many times and like I mentioned above it's completely awkward. It's especially difficult when they talk about me in a certain way just to make themselves feel better. The way it's said and how they swear I'm the skinniest person does not actually feel good at all! It makes me think they're saying I'm weak and unhealthy. I do wear some of the smallest sizes available but I've got my curves, a small bust, and some cellulite (like most women do!). Yes, "insert name here" I do in fact eat and go to the gym! If you really knew me you'd know I love food! In the world's eyes all these things that make me who I am are not perfect but I know that in God's eyes I do have the perfect body. He created me just the way I am and I know I'm accepted and loved.
If we really have a serious issue with ourselves we can work towards improving many of them. Things like making better food choices and exercising to lose weight or investing in new skin-care products to achieve a healthier looking face can be accomplished. If issues like these really cause you to be depressed and are the source for your low self-esteem then you should do something about it. I don't mean to be harsh I just want to encourage you to start tackling the issues instead of complaining about it. Trust me, I could use some of my own advice too!
At the same time we need to be careful about what we decide we want to change. For example, I could change the gap between my teeth but I accepted this uniqueness of mine a long time ago and it doesn't cause me any physical problems so why do it? It's important to think these things through and not just change something about yourself because you want to be perfect.
Please don't think I have everything together. There are times when I think negative thoughts about my body but I have been working to train myself to be aware of it and so I usually won't dwell on the thoughts. The purpose of this post was to simply encourage you. Always remember, YOU ARE B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L!
My challenge for you this week is: Instead of focusing on what you believe are your flaws, praise the things you love about yourself!
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