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Thursday, August 27, 2015
Here are three things you shouldn't say to people with anxiety along with what goes on inside my head when I hear these phrases and how they make me feel. You might not feel the same way but I am interested in knowing if these phrases affect you too, and if there's anything else that is difficult for you to hear. To those of you who don't have anxiety, I didn't put this together to make you feel bad but to help make you more aware of how powerful words are. In my opinion, they aren't the best words to use with ANYONE but I think it's even worse for people with anxiety.
1) "Calm down."
It's a very blunt and almost heartless phrase to tell anybody.
It makes me feel like you don't care and/or are annoyed with me. I have felt defensive after hearing these words and my heart would beat even faster which didn't help the present situation I was dealing with. It has made me feel embarrassed and like I'm "being too much" when I'm actually really struggling. I am left feeling even more frustrated because it's not that simple. It's a process. I am not a robot and can't "calm down" on command.
2) "You'll be fine."
You're probably right, but you don't know for sure.
It's more than likely that I'll be fine later, but I feel quite the opposite when I'm going through a spell and I have to get through whatever it is I am dealing with first, which might actually be very tough. Maybe people say it because they don't know what to do or say to make you feel better, but it feels like my issues are just being pushed aside like they're nothing.
3) It's all in your head.
This is probably the worst of them. You're better off not saying anything at all.
To me, that's like saying everything I'm thinking and feeling isn't real and that what I am going through doesn't matter. I feel overwhelmed, scared, and unbalanced so when I hear these words everything seems all the more hopeless. I feel even more misunderstood, which then makes me feel different and like I have a problem. I'll shut down and won't feel like I can talk to you.
What do you think? Leave a comment below and tell me what it's like for you. If you don't have anxiety, was this eye opening at all? I'm curious to know what everyone's perspective on this is.
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